How to express sympathy after loss of a baby?
Query by truth_and_time_tells_all: How to express sympathy right after loss of a child?
I was about to order a some Garden roses, i believed it would be a great memory. My pals only lost their baby yesterday, i got a round robin text from them so i havent spoken to them. I was just wanting up the sort of factor to write on the note and am now thinking possibly a card would be better.
Whats the etiquite here?
replies asap please, thanks
cathrl69: i didn’t imply it like, they’ll be pondering about etiquette and i don’t intend for the roses to be an official memorial i just believed they would be good. Thanks for your opinion although.
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Answer by B-Rad Lee
A card will do. If you reside close maybe make them a dish they can freeze and heat up for a dinner one particular evening.
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August 16th, 2011 at 11:04 am
Honestly, I think the last thing your friends will want is etiquette.
I would write that you are so sorry, you really don’t know what to say, and that if there’s anything you can do they should just ask. I wouldn’t be buying memorials. That’s for them to do, unless they ask you for help or suggestions.
August 16th, 2011 at 11:58 am
Having gone through two immediate family bereavements myself I can tell you it is comforting to know that there are people thinking about you.
With flowers, think about how many they are actually going to get. The amount can get a bit overwhelming. The most helpful thing is people cooking meals, like a lasagne or a stew. Something that can be easily frozen. Or maybe even a giftcard for a supermarket because they will be having to spend a lot of money on the funeral etc.
Try not to be too imposing, they will probably want to be left alone unless they approach you.
Whatever you do don’t tell them you understand how they must feel, even if you’ve been through it yourself, because everyone grieves differently.
August 16th, 2011 at 12:00 pm
These are your friends and any gesture of kindness would be appreciated. One thing not to say is “You can always have another baby.
You can send them a blank card with your own words and sentiments written inside.
Let them know that you are here for them when they are ready to talk. The parents might not be up to much for a few weeks. Another nice thing you can do is make a dinner for them and drop it off, or order some food for them from there favorite restaurant and have it delivered to them. Send a note along with it, Just thinking of you.
The flowers are also a very nice thing to do. The smallest things that you do for them will not go unnoticed. They will find comfort in the fact that they have loving and thoughtful friends. When there ready, I”m sure they will speak to you about it.
Unfortunately, there are no magic words you can say to them in there time of grief. Let them know you understand that, and will be waiting patiently to talk to them when there ready