Q&A: What do you think of big age gagps between children? Is having a baby when you have teenagers a good idea?
Query by Frederic_LeGreat: What do you feel of huge age gagps involving kids? Is obtaining a baby when you have teenagers a very good plan?
I have heard persons say it is not fair on the teenager’s as if they really should be capable to give permission for their Parents getting another infant.
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Solution by rayray
If a little one is loved and cared for then age gaps involving siblings do not matter
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October 24th, 2011 at 5:06 am
Well there are certain circumstances.
My father had a baby with his girlfriend about 4 years ago, when I was 16.
He didn’t take care of me when I was growing up, so no, it wasn’t fair to me that he made another baby.
October 24th, 2011 at 6:04 am
I think adults should be able to do what they please. Im 20yrs old and my oldest sibling is 33yrs old… he was 13 when my parents had me. We get along great. Its all about whats right for the family; not one child/teenager. That is assuming that the children are taken care of, ofcourse. As long as everyone is doing good i think its fine.
October 24th, 2011 at 6:54 am
Ridiculous. Parents don’t need permission–what is not fair for the teenagers? Might have to pick up after themselves a little more often? If parents want another baby, or a slip creates new life, so be it. Lots of teens I know of would fall in love with the little one, and be the coolest dude to the child forever.
TX Mom
October 24th, 2011 at 7:23 am
Adults can do whatever they want. If we decide to have another baby that is our decision and teens should have no say in that decision. Their opinion should be asked though. My mom had one of my little sisters when i was 12 and another when i was 13. It gave me more insight when i got older. Then when i had my daughter, i was fully prepared.
October 24th, 2011 at 7:46 am
having teenagers is enough to put anyone off the idea of having another baby! But looking on the positive side they are old enough to help out (allegedly) You don’t need anyones permission. go for it if it is what you really want. Good luck
October 24th, 2011 at 8:35 am
my husband is 24 and he has a 6 year old brother. and his sister is 21. so there are about 18 years between my husband and the little one and 14 between my sister and law and the baby.
my baby brother in law is the cutest thing ever. absolutely adorable, he doesnt seem to mind having much older siblings, in fact he loves it, and my husband loves the kid, obviously.
he is totally the family baby though before i was even comfortable with the fam he would just come sit on my lap and play on his nintendo thing lol, hes used to people making a big deal over him.
October 24th, 2011 at 9:20 am
i come from a family of 7 my oldest sister was 18 when i was born.she has always been like my second mother over the years.i think that any child that will be loved and cared for by their parents is always a good idea.
October 24th, 2011 at 9:55 am
Talking as a 15 year old, With one 4 year old sibling, my opinion isent exactly positive for you
Since my mum got pregnant, my whole life got thrown in this big mess, I was pretty much forgotten about, arguments started, And naturally There was no attencion left over for me, I studied my arse off for my gcse’s and passed every one of then With good results, and My parents, Dident even seem perticularly arsed about it.. when AllI wanted was them to be happy for me, instead of fussing over saskia. (my sis) Dont get me wrong, I Love the little kid, but I Wish that they would realize that im still alive, and I wouldlike some recignicion for Things that i do.. Everything is about saskia, (Naturally, I Know.. ) She needs attecion and stuff, but unless youre totally sure that you would still have time for you teengers, and that they wont end up always having to take care of the kid, And stuff..
Ovb. things will change, but dont let it get too much more then nesesarry
+ Yeah you should talk about it to youre kids first so that they feel more included, and so that you can get their opinions..
dont just throw a bomb on thir heads that gonna change everything and make em feel like theirs nothing they can do about it
And Also I Think having a 14 yr old did too, that it is better to have everyone nearer the same age, as while they grow uo, thell will always have someone to be with, and wont get lonly.. as if their is a big age gap, they wont be as close
October 24th, 2011 at 10:27 am
Teenagers grow up – get their own friends – see less and less of their parents when they do. So after a while they won’t be around much to bother about the baby anyway!
Although like someone has already said – you gotta be mad to consider having a baby when you know what they grow into (teenagers!!)
October 24th, 2011 at 11:08 am
As long as both children are loved, cared for and looked after then there is no problem
Why the hell should teenagers have the right to choose whether their parents, or one parent with new partner has more children or not?
My stepson was nearly 16 when I gave birth to my daughter. He had no say in the matter, and has coped fine.
Would never have given him the choice and if we choose to have more then that is OUR choice as well.
We are not allowed to dictate what he does in his life now that he is 18, so he should not be able to dictate in our lives either
October 24th, 2011 at 11:48 am
No a big age gap is good- think of all the sleepless nights, the screaming, the demands for nappy changes, bottles, attention…
What teenager in their right mind would get knocked up after seeing first hand what its like?
It also gives them a lovely wee baby to hand back to mum and dad when bored of the responsibility lol!
October 24th, 2011 at 12:42 pm
I had two babies when my sons were young teenagers – and I think it does matter. It was great for me – I had built in babysitters, and my boys adored their little sisters. They still do, even though my daughters are teenagers themselves, now.
But I was truly upset when my son told me one day that he was captain of the rugby team in year X and I had been too busy/too tired/too involved with babies and nappies to notice.
Maybe it was a good thing. We all survived, so I don’t think it did do any lasting damage. I do feel though that they didn’t get enough attention.
October 24th, 2011 at 1:17 pm
my children are aged 24 19 and 4yrs old,they all get on great most of the time,she runs rings round them both
October 24th, 2011 at 1:55 pm
i believe anyone can have a child any time they want rich or poor, old or young, got children already or haven’t got any.
October 24th, 2011 at 2:01 pm
It is the parents’ decision but also the parents’ responsibility. If they have another baby, they should not have it with the expectation that the teenager will have much of a role in taking care of the child.
They also need to understand that having a baby affects the lives of everyone sharing a house with that baby. Teens are already sleep deprived, so a screaming baby at 1AM could cause academic and behavioral problems. If the parents have a baby, they must be able to take care of the new child as well as their teenagers.
Honestly, I don’t think that it’s fair, but very few adults actually treat children and teens fairly anyway. Even if you think you do, you probably don’t. Adults can be very immature.