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December 13th, 2011 at 5:00 am
Well first of all, I would definitely keep it, even if it was at a bad time for me, it would be the baby’s fault after all. Then I probably would tell him because he does have a right to know. x
December 13th, 2011 at 5:04 am
It would be my choice and my choice only, I wouldn’t give a toss whether or not he did or didn’t want children, if I chose to keep I would have to accept its on my own, no good thinking maybe he’ll come round whatever I wouldn’t want that then I would have to weigh up my options as to whether or not I could do it alone.
December 13th, 2011 at 5:44 am
I would tell him that I was planning to put the baby up for adoption. I think that legally, you have to tell him if you are going to adopt out your baby (weird, since you can terminate the pregnancy without his knowledge or consent). If you are not legally required to tell, than I wouldn’t.
December 13th, 2011 at 6:06 am
Erm…depends upon where I was in my life. I would likely tell him that I am pregnant with his baby, talk about it, and then make my decision.
Regardless of whether or not he wants kids, if I decided to keep it, you can bet your bottom dollar he would at least be contributing financially.
December 13th, 2011 at 7:01 am
i would keep it just coz i dont do abortions. but i wouldnt be scared to tell him either way, i would tell him its his choice if hes in the babys life or not. coz personally i dont care. but i would always want to be able to contact him incase when the childs older, s/he wanted to meet him. as the child does have a right whether the father wanted to have him/her or not.
December 13th, 2011 at 7:22 am
Tell him. It’;s his responsibility too.
December 13th, 2011 at 7:38 am
i have been in this situation. I thought about termination and got some information, I also bought books on pregnancy and read all the information. I decided I could not have a termination and I prepared myself mentally for raising a child on my own, sat down and worked out my finances, told my closest girlfriends who were very supportive of me in whatever I chose to do and told the father. He wasn’t interested as I thought he wouldnt be. The man I had been dating for 2 weeks was the next hurdle. I came clean with him and to my amazement he was supportive instead of running the other way like I expected he would. He told me he didn’t want to tell me as it was too soon but he loved me and thought I was ‘the one’, and said he wanted to be father to my baby.
Just be honest and make the best decision for you. gather up your closest friends and family and settle a support system around you as much as possible. Do some research and don’t make any rash decisions based on emotion. Try to think it all through first and think ahead too. Being a single mother is hard, but with some support it will become very rewarding. I guess my point is that things often work out better then you expect, and even if your ex isn’t interested in being a ‘father’, you won’t be alone if you lean on those who care about you.
Make sure the father contributes financially if he wants to see the baby and if he wants to wash his hands of it, then you are mother and father to that child
December 13th, 2011 at 7:41 am
Yes I would tell him..regardless of whether you decide to keep the baby or terminate. The question you ask about whether we would terminate or continue with th pregnancy, its really your ex-boyfriend you need to discuss this with.
You obviously thought something of each other once upon a time otherwise you would not have dated, so why not discuss this with him..after all it took two to make this baby right? And so what if he has a proactive career – what about your life too, and what you would have to give up should you keep the baby. Fundamentally though, the desision on the baby’s future is in YOUR hands..you are in control of whether you keep or terminate, so if the ex wants to terminate and you desperately want to keep the baby then you have the choice here. Don’t go through this on your own..you might be surprised at a positive reaction from him?
December 13th, 2011 at 8:28 am
Myself personally i don’t believe in abortions unless they are for medical reasons.
I would keep the baby and tell my ex but i would explain to him that with or without his help i am keeping the baby and if your family wants to take part in the baby’s life they would be welcome, but all decisions would be made by me.
It really depends on the girl there are many factors to consider i.e do you want a baby and are you able to support it?
Good luck with whatever you decide and i hope I’ve helped.
December 13th, 2011 at 9:14 am
I personally would keep the baby, but that is your decision. I couldn’t ever have an abortion. I would tell him that you are pregnant and let it be his decision if he wants to be in the baby’s life. He will be responsible for child support though if you want to make him pay he has too.
December 13th, 2011 at 9:39 am
I believe that he has the right to know whether he is your ex or not! If you don’t want the baby there is always adoption as i don’t believe in abortion. Talk to him and then think long and hard about what is best for you both. Hope it all works out.
December 13th, 2011 at 10:30 am
I would make the decision based on whether *I* wanted to raise a baby. Whether he wants children or not, he could have abstained or used condoms. He can pay child support because the child IS his.
I personally wouldn’t abort unless there were a medical problem with me or the fetus or if there was reason to expect threatening behavior (the biggest cause of death in pregnant women in the US today is murder, usually by the father).
December 13th, 2011 at 11:09 am
you need to tell him.its not fair to him not too.
if he didnt want children he shouldnt of been having unprotected sex! if you are really frightened to tell him take someone along to support you
December 13th, 2011 at 12:06 pm
Well, in normal course I cannot be pregnant! I am a male! LOLOLOLOL